As you might know if you’ve made it through any of my past whining, I like to chat online.
Sometimes on websites, ICQ available for chat mode when that was the thing to do, on IRC more than anywhere else. Once in a while I’ll meet someone in a forum or from a blog comment or even Google groups. Lately swapped emails a bit on Fetlife too.
Almost invariably when I chat with someone for a little bit they’ll ask if I use any form of instant messenger. Once in a while I’ll say yes. We’ll say hi right away then maybe once the next day but not have a chance to talk. Then a few days later we’ll cross paths and chat a bit. After that maybe a couple more near-misses and a few months later I think back to the person I used to chat with before I clean my list and that’s the end of that.
I think it’s because once someone is on a messenger chat list you take them for granted. You feel like you can talk any time rather than taking the opportunity to talk now. Maybe I just get boring really fast?
Either way I’m giving thought to giving up instant messengers entirely.